Talking is important, but it's only a first step toward preventing your children from smoking. Here are some other things to consider:
- Provide a safety net for your child. For example, let him know that if he's at a party where other kids are doing something unsafe or illegal, such as drinking, using drugs or smoking, he can call you and ask to be picked up–and not have to give you a reason. This will make it easier for him to get out of those situations.
- Set boundaries on your child's behavior when it comes to not smoking and being around other kids when you're not there. Check that your child understands these boundaries and make it clear that smoking is unacceptable. Make sure that your rules reflect how you feel, and how important not smoking is.
- If your child does push the boundaries or break the rules, don't let your punishment backfire. If you're too harsh, your child may simply be angry at you. Explain again the reasons why you set the rules and why it's important that your kid follow them. Remember, your biggest goal is to help keep your kid from smoking.
- Don't allow smoking by anyone inside your home. This lets your child know your position clearly, shows that you're not singling him out, and may lower the odds that he'll start smoking. (If you're a smoker, and you're not ready to quit, consider not allowing yourself to smoke inside your home as well. See "Tips for Parents Who Smoke.")
- Sit down together and figure out how much money it costs a smoker even if you're just counting direct expenses (365 x number of packs per day x price per pack). Ask your child what else he or she might spend that much money on.
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Author: Dr. Larry Kutner
